The Euphoria of Becoming Someone You Don't Hate

The Primary Causes of Gender Dysphoria/Transgenderism and Why Transitioning is Not a Solution

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This post is not intended to be a fully comprehensive exploration of the causes of gender dysphoria (partially, at least, because doing so would require a novel-length exploration of the subject). Instead, the goal is to provide the reader with a fundamental understanding of the most common and important contributing factors, as well as how these factors produce dysphoria, and why incidences of it have risen so drastically in recent years.

Lastly, I’ll provide a brief conclusion regarding the catastrophic folly of using social, chemical, and surgical transitioning methods to “treat” those suffering from dysphoria.

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Incidences of gender dysphoria have increased at alarming rates every single year, for at least the last five years running. What was once estimated to naturally (presenting in early childhood with limited, or no discernable confounding environmental factors) occur in people at rates as low as 0.005% has, in some groups, increased by a factor of 100 or more - particularly in children and young adults, and in politically left-leaning cities and states. As a result, the rates of transgenderism (a gender dysphoric person initiating social, surgical, and/or hormonal transition of “gender”) have also increased drastically.

The current reigning claim in the psychological and other relevant communities is that the increase in gender dysphoric and transgender people can be attributed to the increase in social acceptance of these conditions, as well as to the advancement in “knowledge” and “care” surrounding this and related topics.

This, and nearly every other claim made by these institutions are not only disprovable, but the ease with which they can be disproven is exceptionally revealing of the ideological influence which has captured the vast majority of institutions responsible for researching this topic, and for disseminating information on it.

Before getting to that though, let’s begin with some definitions, as many of the terms used in this post mean different things to different people, and understandably so.

It’s important to note these terms are often accidentally or purposefully conflated. Additionally, they are frequently used interchangeably for the sake of ideological or political expediency, which further confuses those who attempt to understand and adhere to their actual definitions, as I will be attempting in this post.

Gender:

The term “gender” was popularized by the controversial sexologist, John Money in 1955. It was originally intended to describe the “gender expression” of an individual.

The average female inherently expresses more feminine behavior than masculine, just as the average male inherently expresses more masculine behavior than feminine. This expression of behavior is, by John Money’s account, an expression of gender, and not necessarily of biological sex. Because this expression of gender is not necessarily dependent on the biological sex of a person, it is important to make the distinction between the original intent of the word, and what many have come to understand it as meaning.

In more recent decades, the term gender has been used interchangeably with the term “sex” (whether mistakenly, or on purpose), often resulting in understandable confusion. For the sake of achieving clarity and comprehension of the subject matter discussed in this post, I will be using the term gender to represent the expressed behaviors of an individual, instead of their biological sex.

Sex:

I will use the term “sex” to describe biological sex, regardless of a person’s gender expression.

Despite what many have come to believe, or have been bullied into pretending to believe, there have been no legitimate advances in science in recent years regarding the number of sexes. Instead, a purposefully confusing conflation of the terms “gender” and “sex” has occurred, and has been used to forward the notion that categories beyond male and female not only exist in humans, but that they can be voluntarily occupied by anyone who claims to occupy them.

The same conflation has also occurred regarding the terms “man” and “woman”, with some apparently equating them to biological sex, others to gender expression, and some to both, again, very often depending on political expediency, as well as level of education on the subject. In this post, I will use them interchangeably with biological sex (as their original definitions require to achieve their purpose of clarification, and have always intended), and not with gender expression.

If we are to adhere to the definitions laid out thus far, then we can establish that there are two sexes, and infinite genders. Gender, after all, is ultimately constrained by nothing, and is based entirely on the subjective feelings and beliefs of an individual.

Regardless of how you may personally feel about these terms and their use, I believe they are necessary here to understand what is occurring in trans and gender dysphoric people, particularly in recent years.

The Sad State of the Research

Lastly, before we begin, I believe it’s important to note the abysmal state of the scientific research surrounding this, and related topics. Unfortunately, the vast majority of studies conducted contain obvious and excessive levels of ideological and/or financial corruption. The sad truth is that nearly every single “scientific” inquiry into this topic is absolutely riddled with corruption, incompetence, and ideological influence - and from more than one angle.

Of course, I’m far from alone in having observed this, and there are many transgender people who have expressed the same concerns regarding the quality of the data put forth by these individuals and institutions.

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Before we can seek to understand exactly how gender dysphoria manifests, we must first identify some of the potential contributing factors. As with nearly every psychological condition, expression, and peculiarity, the contributing factors appear to involve a mix of both nature and nurture.

Nature

In the case of gender dysphoria, nature is not always exceptionally relevant, but it can be. There are many biological factors that come into play regarding gender expression and sexual attraction (not necessarily linked), including hormones, genetics/epigenetics, DNA, biological sex, and many other speculated contributing factors. Unfortunately, our understanding of how these factors actually contribute on an individual basis, or to what extent, is still limited.

While researchers have demonstrated significant links and patterns between these factors and a person’s gender expression and sexual attraction, they have failed to identify any set of conditions that can reliably predict a specific outcome of behavior or sexual orientation and attraction.

In the case of gender dysphoria manifesting early in a child’s life, as opposed to during or after puberty, there appears to be a close relationship with factors which correlate with homosexuality and sex-atypical people such as “tomboys”, at least, observationally. Research suggests that hormonal factors, both during gestation, as well as postnatally, likely play a significant role in development of “pre-nurture” sexual attraction and behavior. Historically, this development of sexual attraction would predispose a person to seek out heterosexual relationships and encounters, homosexual ones, or both.

Today, however, physiological factors, social conditioning, ideological incentives and demands, and cultural “norms” have severely impacted the behaviors of people who are questioning their identities, sexuality, and “gender expression”, as well as many people who, prior to these environmental changes, were not commonly demonstrating prolonged confusion regarding their gender expression or sexual orientation.

Nurture

These are the environmental factors largely responsible for producing the dissociation between expression of self, and biological sex.

This primarily includes:

• Upbringing/childhood

• Current and past physical and mental health

• Nutrition

• Lifestyle

• Social circle

I believe, and I hope to prove in this post, that “nurture” is significantly more important than nature in determining the most common causes of gender dysphoria in recent years.

As it turns out, there are no specific biological factors which are required for producing gender dysphoria. That is to say that, given the right environmental conditions, anyone can experience gender dysphoria. In order to understand why this is the case, we must first understand a critically important truth about the cause of depression, anxiety, and trauma, and how they produce identity disorders.

Gender dysphoria, in nearly all cases, is ultimately a consequence of one or more of these conditions, but it may be difficult to understand why without first understanding what causes them.

The following linked post details these causes, and can provide the reader with an understanding of how they contribute. It isn’t essential reading to understand the content of the rest of this post, but it can certainly help clarify things.

The cause of depression, anxiety, and trauma.

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So, why is it important to understand what causes anxiety, depression, and trauma?

The answer is that gender dysphoria, without fail, falls into two categories:

1. Pre-mental illness (no chronic anxiety, depression, and/or trauma present) onset of gender dysphoria

2. Post-mental illness (chronic anxiety, depression, and/or trauma present) onset of gender dysphoria

Pre-Mental Illness Onset of Gender Dysphoria

Pre-mental illness onset of gender dysphoria is relatively easy to observe and understand due to the absence of exceptionally confounding factors. This occurs when a person not experiencing prolonged and/or severe mental illness is “coerced” into a gender dysphoric state; typically by parents, guardians, or some other caregiver who occupies an important role of authority in a person’s life.

In the vast majority of cases, pre-mental illness onset of gender dysphoria occurs in young children who may or may not naturally express signs of gender dysphoria. These children demonstrate ubiquitous signs of identity confusion and exploration which, when observed by certain kinds of guardians or authority figures (most notably those suffering from narcissistic personality disorder, Munchausen by proxy, or pathological ideological zealotry) are perceived as incontrovertible signs of gender dysphoria in the child, and then imposed onto them.

All children have a natural and necessary period of identity and gender exploration. As it turns out, we all have an identity, and none of us are born with a perfect understanding of, or relationship with it. As we grow, we are met with experiences which challenge us to question and understand different elements of our identity, including the gender element of it. Children are exceptionally malleable and will, almost without failure, integrate the information and “answers” provided to them by authority figures.

If a child is in the process of exploring their identity, and a guardian insists on, or is exceptionally forthcoming with information which purports to identify and explain the behaviors of that child, then that child will eventually accept and embrace the conclusions of their guardian. Children want to be seen, heard, feel loved, unique, and valued by the important authority figures in their lives. If an authority figure provides them with a path to experiencing those things (in this case, embracing the “loving” conclusion of their guardian), then they will hungrily embrace it.

Is your toddler trans?

The answer, without exception, is no. For as long as child behavior has been observed and recorded, there have always been children who fall outside the “norm” regarding their gender expression, some more than others.

Some girls like to play with trucks, and some boys like to play with dolls.

According to gender theorists (postmodern neo-Marxist ideologues), a young male who frequently chooses behaviors more commonly associated with females is not simply exploring his identity - he has already determined it with perfect and undeniable accuracy (something which rarely, if ever truly occurs in anyone). Apparently, permanent self-actualization is reliably and easily achieved the moment a child makes a claim to it…

In essence, this child’s natural exploration of identity has been perverted to suit the ideological and personal fulfillment of his caregivers. The child’s inexperienced, uninformed, subjective, easily-corruptible, and desire-oriented account is all that is required for him to be confirmed as a person who has had the unfortunate experience of being born in the wrong body. He was actually supposed to be a female, but something went wrong…

Now, it’s up to his caregivers to correct nature’s mistake; a mistake which, interestingly, has experienced a significant rise which correlates extremely well with the rise of postmodern neo-Marxism (Wokeness) over the same period of time. Not so surprisingly, the more “left-leaning” a given population, the more incidences of gender dysphoria can be found there.

Of course, it is not physically possible to be born in the “wrong” body. All of us are, in more than one way, born into bodies which fail to facilitate certain needs and desires, including ones we often believe to be critical to our happiness, fulfillment, and sense of identity. Only your expectations of, and actions toward your body can position it into a state of incongruence with your mind.

What these children are experiencing is little more than easily predictable and exceptionally well-understood exploration of identity; something that ALL children frequently experience throughout childhood, and which necessarily includes moments of severe confusion and feelings of helplessness, particularly in girls going through puberty.

As it turns out, the “wrong body” IS the social construct which, until recent years, was so adamantly opposed, deconstructed, and criticized by the same “progressives” now undeniably responsible for producing so many of these incidences of pre-mental illness onset of gender dysphoria. That is, if it weren’t for the socially-influenced expectations and conclusions arrived at as a result of observing these natural behaviors in children through an ideological lens, the very concept of being born in the wrong body could not, and would not exist.

Instead of the “wrong body”, it would be nothing more than a personality expressing things not typically associated with the biological sex of the body which expressed them. People such as this have always existed and, until recently, the vast majority of them naturally attained congruence with their identities following periods of exploration and discovery; the same periods of exploration and discovery we will all experience throughout our lives.

Society used to celebrate these people for having the courage to “be themselves” DESPITE other people’s perceived incongruence between their behavior and appearance. Now, they are being told that their behavior is unnatural; that the only logical conclusion is to “fix” their body so that it suits the expectations of others.

“Most women don’t behave in this way, she must actually be a man…”

It is only once alternative gender theorist “solutions” were widely propagated that such a large percentage of these people began questioning the “wrongness” of their bodies.

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There are at least three truths we can determine here with certainty.

1. Behavior cannot determine biological sex with perfect accuracy.

2. Even so, gender ideologues are using “gendered behavior” to determine the “wrongness” of biological sex in a given individual. Despite their condemnation of social constructs, they have created a new one which effectively suggests that gendered behavior which does not traditionally align with the sex of an individual necessarily implies that individual was born in the wrong body. This is a profoundly helplessness-inducing conclusion to impose onto people.

3. Biological reality does impact a person’s likelihood of expressing certain behavior, but it cannot predict it with perfect accuracy either, and it can easily be corrupted by environmental factors.

A “wrong” body is not a wrong body - it is simply a body which has not yet achieved natural congruence with the person’s mind. There are many factors which can impact our likelihood of experiencing incongruence between body and identity, as well as our ability to achieve congruence.

Post-Mental Illness Onset of Gender Dysphoria

Alright, so we’ve made some progress in understanding where all the “trans” toddlers are coming from, but what about the teens and adults that make up the majority of transitioning people? What could be causing such a drastic rise in their numbers?

In this section, I’ll be discussing the following primary causes:

• The drastic rise in anxiety, depression, and trauma

• Identity resentment and dissociation

• Identity fetishization and admiration

• Social contagion

• Environmentally-induced narcissism

• Physiological factors

The Drastic Rise in Anxiety, Depression, and Trauma

If you haven’t read this post yet, now is the time.

Identity Resentment and Dissociation

Gender dysphoria is, in nearly all cases, intimately linked to helplessness, but the path from helplessness to transitioning is a long, and often complicated one. It is no coincidence that people experiencing gender dysphoria have alarmingly high rates of anxiety, depression, trauma, and suicidality, both before and after pursuing any form of transition.

We are all, in a very real sense, in a relationship with ourselves; with our identities. Just like our relationships with other people, our bodies and minds often behave in ways we don’t understand and don’t feel in control of. When we experience severe or prolonged helplessness (anxiety, depression, or trauma), our relationship with ourselves deteriorates, and becomes abusive and neglectful.

If your relationship with another person becomes abusive and neglectful, what is the most likely result?

Unless an effort is made to repair the relationship, the most likely result is resentment and dissociation.

We resent that which we feel bitterly wronged by and, if we feel helpless in our ability to correct the problem, we attempt to move away or “dissociate” from the source of our pain - physically, mentally, or both; consciously, or unconsciously. When this occurs within ourselves, our identities become fractured and dysfunctional. We stop developing them, and they fester in isolation and misery. This process can easily and reliably be observed in people who rapidly fall into severe states of anxiety, depression, or trauma - particularly when development of one or more addictions is also present.

When our relationship with our identity is in shambles, our bodies and minds naturally yearn and seek for relief and repair; for agency. This is why people who fall into mentally unwell states often seem to present as entirely different versions of themselves, both physically and mentally. Of course, the same thing is typically observed in people who manage to escape their mental illness. When I escaped my own depression after decades of trying, I did not recognize myself for a very long time. I was effectively “re-introduced” to my identity, and we had a lot of catching up to do.

As would be expected, this occurs at much higher rates in people who rapidly escape their depression, as has been observed in the psychedelic and other therapeutic communities. This is hardly surprising considering that, the faster a person escapes something like depression, the less likely they are to recognize the person they find on the other side of it, especially if they’ve been surviving in depression for a long time.

Human beings cannot thrive without a sense of identity, as doing so is to exist in a severe state of helplessness, isolation, confusion, and suffering. Naturally, a person who loathes their identity will search for a new one or, at the very least, another version of the one they are in an abusive and neglectful relationship with.

If you had to guess, what do you think a person in this state would do if the promise of relief was offered to them by simply adopting a new identity; one which purports to represent the person they were always meant to be (immediately solving all their problems); one which offers the promise of a “fresh start”? Would they take it? What if doing so not only allowed them to replace the identity they see as responsible for their suffering, but also offered the following potential benefits, and more?

• Adoption of a new identity which they, and others, admire, respect, love, resonate with, are attracted to, feel confident in…

• Bestowing a sense of community, approval, validation, and belonging - things which nearly all young, insecure, and mentally unwell people yearn for in excess

• Validation and affirmation of their desires and beliefs regarding themselves, including feeling special, unique, loved, valued, etc.

• Replacing their feelings of helplessness with feelings of agency (the primary reason feelings of relief are often temporarily experienced during and post transition - more on this later)

• Granting social capital (adamant and vitriolic protection from criticism - admiration, reverence, empathy, and respect from others - drastic increase in attention and validation, escape from “oppressive” and “boring” identities such as “cis” white male, etc.)

• Reduction in suicidality and ideation (does not actually occur in the majority of cases, and gets worse in many - more on this later)

“No one would choose to be trans.”

I’m afraid such a statement could not be further from the truth. All of the evidence begs to differ and, considering the incomplete list of “benefits” listed above, as well as the path of suffering and desperation which lead to their allure, can you blame them? The Transmaxxing community sure doesn’t; they see it as the clearly obvious path to an improved life.

Just within my own social circle, I know at least four people who claim to be trans. Apart from one, none of them have taken any steps to behave or present as their claimed “gender”. They frequently “dip” in and out of their “transness” whenever socially convenient, and many of their friends have followed suit, or have expressed a desire to. They, like everyone else who has been paying attention, understand the social advantages of claiming a marginalized identity, particularly transgender. The demand for victimhood has soared, and the supply is now flooding the market.

Young people, particularly girls, are exceptionally suggestible and impressionable, and there have been no shortage of social trends over the years which unequivocally demonstrate mass adoption as a result of social influence.

“I’m simply becoming who I’ve always been inside”

Said the person desperate to fit in, surrounded by people whose social status was instantly elevated the moment they declared a “Queer” identity, and who is currently in an abusive and neglectful relationship with the identity (their own) they blame for their suffering, do not understand, and are desperately seeking to replace. There is no person less suited to making such a claim to their authenticity.

When identity-born suffering reaches the stage of desperation, ANY identity can feel preferable and “authentic” to the person considering transition. The “transabled” community is an excellent example of the psychological process underpinning this phenomenon.

These people are not locating the identities they were meant to have. They are attempting to escape the identities they see as responsible for producing their suffering, and to replace them with more desirable identities. Severe mental illness does not need to be present for this to occur, it simply increases the likelihood significantly. Some level of dissatisfaction with self will always be present in those who transition, as a truly self-loving person is incredibly unlikely to abandon their identity for a new one, no matter how appealing.

With the drastic rise in anxiety, depression, and trauma, an increase in identity disorders has followed suit. But why would a person loathe and resent the gender element of their identities, in particular? And how could such a thing become so common, seemingly out of nowhere?

There are practically an unlimited number of reasons this can occur, but most of them fall into one or more of the below categories:

1. Incongruity with body and self-expression

2. Sexual abuse

3. Resentment for others who have wronged them and/or people they care about, and who share their biological sex

4. Resentment against behaviors and roles expected of their gender

5. Ideological and cultural indoctrination of perception of biological sex, and how gender expression relates

6. Simplification of identity

Let’s “briefly” cover each of these.

1. Incongruity with body and self-expression

As discussed earlier in this post, there are many biological and environmental factors which can predispose someone to express their gender in ways which are not typical of their biological sex. The female child who prefers playing with trucks instead of dolls? Such a person has always been relatively common, and was once referred to as a “Tomboy”.

These people have not historically been found to experience rates of mental illness significantly greater than the general population. Now, the story is much different. Sex-atypical behavior, particularly in children (nearly 2/3rd’s of whom cease most atypical behavior by age 13), is increasingly seen as conclusive proof that the child expressing this behavior has been born into the wrong body.

This behavior, when observed by someone poisoned by gender ideology, is increasingly proving to be a nail in the coffin regarding the child’s mental and physical wellbeing. As little as a decade ago, such behavior would be considered normal childhood exploration of identity or, perhaps, potential indication of future homo/bisexuality, and the vast majority of these children would grow up living normal, healthy lives.

Today, the “official” treatment protocol is to assess such a child (or any child, for that matter) for gender dysphoria by simply asking them some questions; often leaving the parent’s beliefs about their child out of the equation, and even threatening legal action against those who protest. Depending on how the child responds, their treatment is likely to consist of placing them on puberty blockers, hormone treatments, or some combination. Irreversible surgery is also considered for children as young as 13, in some cases, and many “experts” in the field are advocating to remove age restrictions altogether, and to opt for other means of assessing whether a person should receive “gender affirming care”.

But what about teens and adults? How does incongruity with body and self-expression manifest in them, and how might this lead to gender dysphoria? The answer is similar in some ways but, hormones and puberty, as it turns out, complicate the issue tremendously.

If there’s one thing that nearly all adult women seem to agree on, it’s that going through female puberty is a bitch… When a person experiences rapid changes to their body, temporary identity confusion and resentment are all-but-guaranteed. Considering that such changes are profoundly helplessness-inducing, this is hardly surprising. Females, however, tend to experience significantly greater distress than their male counterparts, during this period.

Women develop differently than men (shocker), and are generally more socially aware and vulnerable to how they are perceived by others, particularly during puberty. Female puberty also happens to coincide with significantly greater changes to the body in comparison with men - an experience which overwhelmingly leaves the girls experiencing it with considerable feelings of helplessness and distress. Considering the drastic rise in mental illness, particularly in young women, the difficulty of surviving through puberty has been severely exacerbated in recent years. If that weren’t bad enough, social media has effectively ensured that nearly every female teenager who regularly uses it will experience one or more periods of severe anxiety and/or depression.

Could the rise in depression in adolescent girls have anything to do with increased incidences of gender dysphoria among the same cohort? I argue the answer is a resounding yes, without question.

The rate of transition from male to female, prior to recent years, was significantly higher than the rate of female to male transition. Not so surprisingly though, female to male transition rates have absolutely exploded in recent years, and in correlation with the rise of depression and anxiety in those very same adolescent women.

Ultimately, the fact of the matter is that incongruity with body and self expression is a normal and expected part of life for all people. Unfortunately, this experience has been severely exacerbated, mischaracterized, mistreated, and ideologically corrupted to the point of absurdity, particularly in children, and in people who demonstrate atypical versions of it.

2. Sexual Abuse

The rates of sexual abuse among transgender people are nothing short of horrifying. Unfortunately, the way these statistics are typically reported have caused many people to incorrectly assume that trans people are being assaulted as a result of being transgender. The reality, however, is that the vast majority of these people are sexually assaulted BEFORE they pursue transition.

Why is this relevant?

Because sexual abuse, depending on certain factors of the event, reliably produces one or more of the following results:

• Severe helplessness (trauma)

• Resentment of self (victim blaming)

• Resentment of the perpetrator

• Resentment of those seen as responsible for allowing it to happen and/or for failing to prevent it

• Gender confusion

Severe helplessness

We’ve already covered what helplessness causes.

Resentment of self

Resentment of the self is a bit more complex. When a person is sexually abused, they often blame themselves for it. More specifically, they often blame the gender element of their identities.

“If I were a a boy/girl, I wouldn’t have been targeted.”

“If I were a boy/girl, I could have stopped it.”

“If I were a boy/girl, I wouldn’t even have been in this situation in the first place.”

Truth is not relevant here, nor, necessarily, is the sex of the victim. What’s relevant is the victim’s perception of the experience and their role in it, as well as how that experience goes on to impact other areas of their life. If a victim of sexual abuse perceives their experience to have been in any way a result of their sex or gender expression, then they will likely come to blame it for their suffering, and develop resentment for, and dissociation from it. It will become a scarred, shameful, and undesirable part of their identity.

Resentment of the perpetrator

Resentment for the perpetrator works similarly. When terrible things happen to us, we search for reasons; we ask ourselves, “why?”. Once again, the gender element often takes the forefront in perceived relevance, especially when sexual abuse happens repeatedly. Sexual activity, after all, necessarily includes factors of both gender and biological sex.

“Men are the reason I’m suffering, and that this keeps happening to me.”

Of course, this sentiment isn’t limited to sexual abuse, and can be instilled in a person for many different reasons, including physical abuse, emotional abuse, experiences of deep shame and humiliation, and countless other experiences. Regardless, we tend to associate the most obvious characteristics of people who harm us with the harm itself, particularly in adolescence when we lack the ability to consider other, more subtle or complex contributing factors. In the end, disturbed perceptions of sex and gender remain a likely result of these kinds of experiences.

Interestingly, consumption of pornography (particularly in children, who are now commonly exposed to it in early childhood) has been shown to have similar impacts on the brain as sexual abuse, among countless other dire consequences. Considering we are currently witnessing the maturation of the first generations in all of human history to have effectively been raised with easy and constant access to porn, it should come as no surprise that many of these people are demonstrating symptoms of sexual abuse and severe dysregulation.

Resentment of those seen as responsible for allowing it to happen and/or for failing to prevent it

If it weren’t obvious by now, resentment for those seen as responsible for allowing abuse to happen to us can, and often will result in gender dysphoric outcomes. If a person feels continually and/or severely let down or mistreated by people in their lives, and those people happen to belong to the male sex, for instance, then that person is likely to develop resentment towards males, and certain kinds of male gender expression.

Gender confusion

Lastly, we have gender confusion. Sexual abuse often results in gender and sex confusion because it can severely subvert our expectations of behavior in people, based on physical characteristics (male or female) which we have come to associate with certain kinds of behavior. In other words, a sexual abuse victim may experience behavior from their abuser which disrupts their prior understanding of the relationship between gender expression, and the sex characteristics which so often predict that expression.

This is a helplessness-inducing experience which is often “corrected” by expanding our expectations of behavior, based on sex characteristics, to a degree which effectively leaves us perpetually unprepared and confused. In order to feel a sense of agency (control), we expand our expectations of sex-based behavior to include anything and everything. Once again, this effect is particularly pronounced in children and young adults, as they lack the ability to make sense of these increasingly complex and confused cultural paradigms and developments.

The result is severe gender, sex, and identity confusion and, likely, development of resentment and dissociation.

3. Resentment for Others who have Wronged them and/or People they Care About, and who Share their Biological Sex

Sexual abuse is not the only kind of experience which can produce severe levels of resentment. Resentment, after all, only requires that we feel bitterly wronged in SOME way, not in any particular way, or from any particular source. Can you think of anyone who resents men or women?

Of course you can, but what might the implications of this resentment be as it relates to gender dysphoria?

Well, what sorts of behaviors have you noticed in people who, for instance, resent men in particular? Do they spend a lot of time around men, in general? Do they think highly of many men, or any at all? Do they go out of their way to treat them poorly or ignore them? Do they fail to empathize with them? What do they think and feel about “traditional” male behavior? Does their resentment of men appear to have caused them to develop excessive admiration, love, and respect for women, or for men who behave in more traditionally feminine ways (keep this in mind for later)? Is there any chance that, say, a man-resenting man would desire to leave their “manhood” behind, given the option? What if they were also sexually abused by men? What if they also suffered from severe and chronic anxiety, depression, or trauma?

If you haven’t noticed the pattern by now, resentment poisons our ability to think clearly, develop and adhere to values which improve our lives and align with reality, avoid cognitive dissonance and confirmation bias, make sense of our experiences, and express empathy for those we hold responsible for our resentment. Resentment, when left unchecked, begins to define our lives.

4. Resentment Against Behaviors and Roles Expected of their Gender

You’re a man, and society expects you to do “manly” things, right? What if you don’t like doing manly things? What if you resent or disapprove of those behaviors? What if those behaviors have frequently been a source of pain in your life? What if, when behaving in more traditionally feminine ways, you feel much more comfortable and natural? What if, as a result of your preferences, people started insisting you were born in the wrong body, and that you can relieve yourself of your confusion and suffering by transitioning?

There are practically an incalculable number of reasons why this disconnect between gender expression and sex can occur and be exacerbated, many of which we’ve already covered.

• Mental/physical health

• Genetics/epigenetics and DNA

• Prenatal endocrine factors

• Nutrition and lifestyle

• Upbringing

• Ideology and culture

• Etc.

Regardless of the cause, the outcome has become predictable when considering everything we’ve covered so far. Given the choice and potential benefits, people suffering from identity crises are now increasingly seeking to replace, instead of repair their identities.

Gender and sex are ever-present elements of our life experience, and our current cultural and ideological climates are wreaking havoc on our ability to achieve and sustain a rational, stable, and unbiased relationship with them.

5. Ideological and Cultural Indoctrination of Perception of Biological Sex, and How Gender Expression Relates

Wokeness has utterly destroyed many people’s ability to attain mental and physical agency over these, and other experiences. It has unequivocally and severely impacted the mental and physical wellbeing of its followers.

The explanation for why this is well beyond the scope of this post, but I hope to offer at least a cursory understanding of how Wokeness plays a critically important role in gender dysphoria.

There are at least three fundamental tenants of Wokeness we need to understand as it relates to gender dysphoria.

1. Wokeness is a resentment-fueled, revolution-seeking ideology which prioritizes feelings, power acquisition, victim elevation and reverence, and “lived experience”, over truth. Objective truth is, according to Woke scholars and activists, racist and oppressive.

2. Wokeness seeks to subvert and “deconstruct” normalcy in nearly all its forms, and to elevate the “marginalized” as part of a mission to achieve social justice, diversity, equity, and inclusion. This process creates instability, and instability is required to sustain the ideology. Marginalized people are the heroes of Wokeness, and this notion is extremely attractive to the kinds of people discussed in this post.

3. Gender is a primary target of Wokeness. This is partially because deconstructing a universal and “normalizing” element of the human experience is a powerful and effective destabilizer, particularly when aimed at young, resentful, would-be revolutionaries. It also happens to be an excellent means of recruiting young, mentally and physically unwell, resentful, narcissistic, messianic, or helpless people into the ideology.

Wokeness has infected western culture to a staggering degree, and it can be found occupying nearly all of our major scientific, governmental, media, academic, and other cultural institutions. The effect it has had on our society is massive and undeniable, and can even be found in the highest court in our land.

What sort of impact might this have on people who, like all of us, are seeking for truth, stability, reason, purpose, fulfillment, self-worth, and an understanding of their identities?

As we develop as people, we notice patterns, and we begin ascribing meaning to them. This, in essence, is how the concept of gender expression came to be in the first place. We notice that men and women tend to engage in certain kinds of behaviors, and we attribute those behaviors to shared characteristics, such as being male or female. Over time, we develop expectations of behavior in people, based on our observation of those characteristics.

If we have an experience which “shocks” our expectations of behavior, it can have a profoundly damaging impact on our understanding of that behavior, where it comes from, what predicts it, etc. This is an experience of helplessness. When this happens, we often search for what, if any implications this may have on our own identities. We are seeking to replace our helplessness with agency; our confusion with understanding and clarity.

“I thought only women did this… If I was wrong, then maybe I was wrong to think I shouldn’t be doing it. What else was I wrong about? I need to know so I don’t wind up shocked and unprepared again…”

This scenario, and countless others like it, are purposefully encouraged, facilitated, and celebrated by the Woke as a matter of ideological necessity. Exclusion or “discrimination” of ANYTHING in alignment with their ideology (and I do mean anything) will be met with elevation, reverence, or, at the very least, pathological acceptance of that which was excluded or discriminated against.

Of course, discrimination against those who do not hold Queer or marginalized identities is not only fair game, but has risen dramatically in recent years, and is frequently encouraged and celebrated. People belonging to “non-marginalized” groups are inherently seen as “part of the problem” by their Woke peers, and are routinely criticized, bullied, and coerced into selecting an identity which is “less oppressive”.

NOTE: There are such an abundance of examples supporting the above claims that I have chosen not to cite any in particular. If you would like to see these examples for yourself, they can be found all over Reddit, YouTube, TikTok, Twitter, Tumblr, Quora, and countless other forums and social media apps.

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Gender expression is not confined to any set of rules, and gender roles are increasingly confused, contested, and subverted. This primes us, particularly the young among us, to develop profound helplessness and confusion in our ability to develop a sense of agency in our understanding of sex and gender, their relationships with each other, and the implications they have on our experience of life.

Human beings are searching to replace helplessness with agency, by default, and we have found ourselves contending with an ideology which values and requires the purposeful subversion and deconstruction of clarity and consistency; of stability. Consistency, after all, grants a sense of normalcy. And normalcy, to Woke ideologues, is an oppressive concept which causes damage to marginalized communities, and threatens the sustainability of their ideology.

Wokeness has become a moral and spiritual guide for many people, and the consequences have been nothing short of catastrophic. Not the least bit surprisingly, countries which have managed to avoid mass adoption of Woke ideology have effectively proven immune to much of the insanity so many Western countries are currently experiencing.

6. Simplification of Identity

If it wasn’t yet apparent, identity is complex. With greater complexity, comes increased helplessness and difficulty in achieving agency. When agency proves difficult to attain, there are two options available.

1. Continue doing the difficult work of sorting through the complexity

Or

2. Abandon complexity and search for, or impose simplicity

The complexity of our modern world has grown rapidly in recent years, and continues to increase every day. Faced with so many options, it’s hardly surprising that many people find themselves seeking to abandon the unsustainable complexity and bustling of modern life, and to find simpler means of living. To a person experiencing overwhelming complexity of any kind, the most appealing solution is often to cut out the excess.

Identity is no different.

Faced with so many identities to “choose” from (sexual, gendered, economic, racial, communal, etc.), the unlimited number of factors to consider, the pressures from others and ourselves to “know” ourselves, the social and economic risks of “selecting” the “wrong” identity, and the difficulties brought on by everyday life in successfully navigating this process, it’s no wonder that some people appear to simply throw their hands up and declare, “That’s it, I’m done. I choose this one.”

If the imperative is to “know thyself”, and doing so proves excessively difficult, then why not simplify it and be done with it?

We’ve all fantasized about adoption of simple and desirable identities at one point or another, most often in childhood.

“I’m going to be [Insert superhero or Disney princess].”

Said nearly every American child at some point in their lives. The identities we cannot possibly inhabit are often the most appealing, particularly when they represent values and traits we admire, or have observed others admiring.

“Alright, we’ll schedule your surgery and chemical treatment as soon as possible!”

What if each of our parents had reacted to our delusional desires in this way? What if doctors had, instead of questioning our obviously infantile and immature delusions, readily and incredulously affirmed them as an urgent matter of life-saving, identity-affirming care? Wouldn’t everything be so much simpler if we could just select the identity that appeals to us at any given moment, and immediately become what we desire?

Particularly for a person experiencing severe suffering as a result of going through an identity crisis, is it at all surprising to see why such an option is not only appealing, but undeniably occurring in people today?

Identity Fetishization and Admiration

We’ve covered a lot about negative associations with the gender element of identity, but what about positive ones? As it turns out, fetishization of identity can also easily be observed in many people experiencing gender dysphoria. We see examples of this not just in the trans community, but in communities all over the world.

People drastically alter their bodies to look like their favorite celebrities, personal heroes, bodybuilding icons, animals, and just about anything else they imagine will bring them closer to their “true” selves. Considering the information laid out thus far, it should come as no surprise that, across the board, people who elect to undergo heavy cosmetic alterations to their bodies (and often even minor alterations such as tattoos, piercings, and unnatural hair colors) are significantly more likely to suffer from mental illness.

Body alterations are very often little more than attempts to reclaim a sense of agency over one’s life and identity; to take a path of immediate and readily apparent change. Of course, this is absolutely not always the case, but the evidence supporting the reality of the link between mental illness and body modification is significant, particularly in recent years, and in those who identify with the modern “Woke” left.

What about identity fetishization at the level of sexual attraction?

Autogynephilia (male sexual attraction toward oneself as a female) has, for many years, correlated with cross sex identity adoption at varying levels, despite claims from transgender activists and “scholars” asserting otherwise (if you can be bothered to read this, take note of the interesting and revealing manner in which the author attempts to refute autogynephilia as a legitimate condition or contributor to transgenderism).

Once again, we can refer to the “Transmaxxing” community for further evidence of this condition and its role in transgenderism. To deny the sexual attraction element of transgenderism in a hyper-sexually “liberated”, sex-starved, porn-addicted generation is, in my mind, willfully ignorant and cognitively dissonant to the extreme.

It is impossible to say how common this condition is, or to what extent it can be found in the transgender community. It may very well be that autogynnephilia and similar conditions account for a very small percentage of transgender people, but the correlation is still worth noting, particularly considering the other evidence presented thus far, as well as examples from countless other trends which conclusively demonstrate the powerful link between desire and identity selection/adoption.

Social Contagion, Influence, and Incentives

Ready to hear a truth that will blow your mind?

We adopt some of the physical and mental characteristics of people we love, respect, admire, look up to, etc. Some of us more often than others, and to varying degrees of severity. This undeniable fact can be observed in every day life, among people of all ages, types, groups, cultures, backgrounds, etc. We are social creatures, and we have evolved to value and require belonging in the social circles we are born into, choose, and find ourselves in throughout our lives.

If everyone around us begins behaving in certain ways, and they are clearly and profoundly rewarded and celebrated for it, we have a high likelihood of adopting the same behaviors. If the people who fail to adopt these behaviors experience suffering, as an apparent result, our incentive to conform grows significantly. What are some other things which might further influence us to join our peers?

• Adolescence

• Insecurity

• Mental and physical illness

• Fear of isolation and exclusion

• The promise of relief from suffering

• Every other factor mentioned in this post…

Are you beginning to see a pattern?

Are incidences of entire friend groups transitioning in close proximity to each other mere coincidences, or is the reason painfully and undeniably obvious at this point? The explosion in trans identifying people is not solely the result of social influence, but social influence is undeniably an enormous contributing factor.

Any attempt by trans activists to deny this fact should be seen for what it is; a cognitively dissonant attempt to validate the legitimacy and necessity of their decision to transition. It is a survival instinct; perceived as a necessary response to scrutiny of their mistaken interpretation of their identity, their path of treatment, the origin of their suffering, and all the implications that go along with them. This is one of the primary reasons why censoring and discrediting of dissidence is seen as vitally necessary for the survival and wellbeing of trans people, and of the ideology which supports and exacerbates their experiences.

Additional evidence for this fact can, once again, be easily observed in every day life, including in ways far less permanent and meaningful than something like transitioning.

You got a new haircut that you love, and can’t wait to show off to your friends and family. Unfortunately, they don’t seem quite as excited about it as you do. Maybe one person even made fun of you, and pointed out some obvious and undeniable flaws with your haircut that you hadn’t noticed before. Most of us would, at the very least, internalize this criticism and experience some insecurity, or even shame.

Some of us would accept reality and begrudgingly think, “Okay, there are some mistakes and, now that I see them clearly, maybe it doesn’t look as great as I thought. Oh well, I can get them fixed and still enjoy it for myself. Maybe I’ll try something else next time.” But is this the most likely outcome? For an adult who is exceptionally confident and secure in their appearance and value, sure, it very well might be.

What about this one?

“They don’t know what they’re talking about. I look amazing, and this was clearly a great choice. They’re just being hateful, jealous, envious, rude, etc. My other friend thinks so too.”

How likely is this scenario? What if we upped the stakes and socially relevant factors? What if, instead of a simple haircut, it was a permanent and irreversible body alteration? Are we more likely to admit to the reality of what we’ve done, or are we more likely to double down and preserve our cognitive dissonance?

What if, along with the change from haircut to permanent body alteration, we included the following potential influences:

• Celebration of our choice by millions of people (including near unanimous support from celebrities and influencers), particularly on social media apps where we spend so much of our time, and have learned to gain so much of our self-worth

• Drastic increase in attention and social acceptance among groups of likeminded “allies”

• Overwhelming special treatment by our “ingroup” (“Sarah is trans now, he needs our support, protection, compassion, empathy, etc. He was incredibly brave, and the only way to ensure his mental health improves is to help make his transition as easy as possible. If we fail, he might attempt suicide. If anyone criticizes him, it should be seen as an act of violence against him.”)

• We get to live out the identity we desire, and whose traits other people in our lives have expressed admiration, respect, love, etc. for

• Loss of entire social circle for desisting - more - more - the MOTHERLOAD (I strongly encourage you to take a moment to read through some of these stories. If the claims made in my post have yet to resonate with you, these accounts may very well make sense of everything I’ve discussed)

• Severe disruption of our physiology (especially hormones, which have profound impacts on our behavior, desires, thoughts, feelings, etc.) due to poor metabolic health, addictions, and a wide variety of unhealthy behaviors which have become pervasive in western civilization

• Returning to the identity you hate, and are in an abusive and neglectful relationship with

The choice is easy now, right? The reality we face is that the above factors are only a fraction of all the relevant factors someone in this situation may find themselves contending with.

Would it shock you to learn that people in situations like this one, when participating in studies on transgenderism, are merely asked after a few months whether or not they are happy with their decision, and that this is one of the primary methods used to determine whether or not their mental health has improved as a result of their transitioning? Is it any surprise that most (but not all) of them claim to be satisfied with their choice?

Most of us can’t even own up to a bad tattoo, let alone significant and often permanent physical and mental identity alterations. And we’re honestly expecting children to give accurate and trustworthy responses in this way?

I believe it goes without saying that the social elements relevant to this topic paint an overwhelmingly disturbing, backward, irrational, ideologically corrupt, and terrifying picture.

Environmentally-Induced Narcissism

We are currently experiencing an undeniable epidemic of narcissism and narcissistic behavior, and to a degree I believe has gone largely unnoticed by the general population, as well as by many people whose job it is to observe and study these things.

Indicators of narcissism include (SPECIAL):

1. Sense of self-importance

2. Preoccupation with power, beauty, or success 

3. Entitled

4. Can only be around people who are important or special

5. Interpersonally exploitative for their own gain

6. Arrogant

7. Lack empathy

8. Must be admired

9. Envious of others or believe that others are envious of them

The causes of narcissism are highly contested, and can differ depending on factors such as age, sex, economic class, upbringing, physical/mental health, etc.

Personally, I believe the evidence indicates that narcissism (and likely narcissistic personality disorder), in the vast majority of people, is little more than a well-integrated, compulsive, maladaptive behavioral pattern of value acquisition. I would argue that observation of behavioral changes in the social media-addicted (among many others) lend unlimited credibility to this assertion.

Narcissists all have at least one very important thing in common: they struggle with, or are utterly incapable of generating their own, internal value. People who struggle to achieve this will, almost without exception, demonstrate pretenses at self-worth, but will lack it, in reality. They will come across as arrogant, but rarely, if ever authentically confident.

Arrogance is a performance of confidence which extends beyond the competence required to justify it. Confidence is natural, relaxed, and authentic. Arrogance is forced, excessive, and inauthentic, and narcissists excel at it.

Whatever sense of value a narcissists experiences will typically be “extracted” from others, often manipulatively, deceptively, and maliciously. They live in a perpetually “addicted” state of external value acquisition, and no amount can ever truly fill the void which plagues them.

Narcissists also live in near constant resentment (remember what severe and chronic resentment causes?) of themselves and others and, as a result, lose most of their ability to express genuine empathy or compassion, among many other things.

Am I claiming that all trans people are narcissists? No, not at all, although there is significant evidence demonstrating that rates of narcissism in gender dysphoric people are exceptionally high. What I can say with confidence is that all narcissists are positively thrilled with the transgender movement, as well as with nearly all other branches of Wokeness, and that they consider them to be perfect opportunities to acquire unlimited unearned value and attention.

Victimhood has become a highly valued currency in our “social market” in recent years, and narcissists are very often the first people to capitalize on social currency acquisition opportunities - they effectively have a sixth sense for them.

Okay so, where did all the narcissists come from? The comprehensive answer is, once again, well beyond the scope of this post. However, we know for certain that the following factors have played major roles over the last ten years:

• Excessive social media use

• Fame culture/influencer idolization, jealousy, envy, etc. (largely driven by social media and media, in general)

• Near-total collapse of physical and mental health (more in the next section)

• Dopamine addiction (I highly recommend reading “Dopamine Nation” for more info on this)

• Wokeness (again)

• Pathological “liberation” (an unhealthy reverence for, and pursuit of liberation for liberation’s sake. The idea is that, if you CAN be liberated from something, then you SHOULD be.)

Narcissism has been on the rise for decades, but has experienced a particularly concerning increase in recent years. Considering the above factors, this is hardly surprising. As I previously stated, I believe narcissism is a learned behavioral condition; a condition which arises in people who fall into one or more of the following categories:

1. Model, and come to value external value acquisition from parental, authority, and idolized figures - particularly in childhood and adolescence

2. Fail to generate their own self-worth and, as a result, learn to depend on acquiring it externally (many things can cause this, but severe and chronic anxiety, depression, and trauma are major contributors due to the impact they have on our ability to generate our own value internally)

3. Are able to generate their own self-worth, but have it frequently and severely “stripped” from them by environmental factors (friends, family, people online, poor health, accidents/trauma, abuse, addiction, etc.). When this occurs often and severely enough, people are drastically more likely to begin seeking external value, and give up on generating their own.

It should be noted that not all people who come to depend on external value will develop full on narcissistic personality disorder. There are many values and experiences which are protective against behaviors which are typically accompanied by an addiction to external value acquisition. Even so, many of these people will ultimately succumb to acting out a variety of narcissistic behaviors, particularly if they find themselves frequently interacting with other narcissists.

Ultimately, the presence of narcissism appears to significantly increase the likelihood of a person’s decision to claim gender dysphoria, and move toward some form of transition.

Physiological factors

Some Truths:

1. Poor metabolic health often results in, contributes to, and significantly exacerbates physical and mental illness, including personality disorders such as narcissism.

2. Less than 15% of people in the United States have “good” metabolic health. The vast majority of people are in terrible metabolic health.

3. Nearly 1 in 5 adults, and 1 in 10 children are currently on psychiatric medication, despite evidence suggesting the majority of the most commonly prescribed psych meds can, and very often do contribute heavily to declines in mental and physical wellbeing - particularly in children.

4. Endocrine (hormone) health is at an all time low in both men and women - resulting in severe damage to mental and physical health.

5. Addictions to drugs, alcohol, gaming, porn, social media, news media, or phones/screens, in general, can be found in a majority of the population - once again, particularly in young people.

The mind and body are inseparable.

When one experiences damage, the other will be affected. Modernity is effectively a barrage of often unavoidable blows to the mind and body, and the effects have become painfully obvious. We are deeply unhealthy, and the consequences have become all-too-apparent.

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I believe the evidence laid out conclusively demonstrates the following:

1. Modernity is producing astounding rates and varieties of helplessness and, as a result, depression, anxiety, and trauma

2. Agency against helplessness has become excessively difficult and complex for many, if not most people

3. These ailments, as well as the other factors discussed in this post (such as narcissism), inevitably cause and exacerbate identity disorders

4. Cultural norms currently support the idea that the best “treatment” of these identity disorders is some form of transition, and opposition to this claim is met with severe, and often life-threatening hostility

5. Ideological impacts on culture have grossly exacerbated all of these things, or outright caused them

6. Gender dysphoria, as well as the drastic increase in prevalence of it is, almost without exception, attributable to one or more of the factors discussed in this post

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Why Transitioning is NOT a Solution

Before we begin with this section, I believe it is important to note that I do not think transitioning should NEVER be an option for people experiencing gender dysphoria, and I have to imagine that may surprise some of you.

Allow me to explain:

When it comes to treatment of identity disorders, the most relevant factor is the consistency and strength of congruence achieved. Unfortunately, people who are not in good relationships with their identities are incredibly sensitive to experiences of incongruence and invalidation, whether internal or external in origin.

That is, the more often, and more severely a person experiences something which threatens their perception of identity congruence (again, whether it came from them, or someone else), the more their mental and physical health will suffer, and the less effective their “treatment” will be. This, in essence, is why transitioning is such an incredibly dangerous treatment option.

It is impossible to determine what level of congruence will be experienced in a given transitioner, throughout the rest of their lives. What we know for certain is that just about any experience can cause a catastrophic and cascading disruption of perceived congruence, and that all of the factors discussed in this post effectively guarantee that experience for transgender people - often on a daily basis.

If you’ve ever wondered why so many transgender people claim to have their very existence negated by dissidence or invalidation of any kind, this is a big part of the reason why (the other part is ideological in nature - a topic for another post). Failing to be affirmed and validated is experienced as a legitimate threat to the entirety of their identity; to everything they have come to associate their existence with. Their identities, after all, have been purposefully simplified to accommodate their desires and perceptions of themself. If the entirety of your identity boils down to one simplified element, why is it surprising that such a person would feel their existence is at stake when invalidated?

The “Euphoria” of Becoming Other Than You

So, why do so many people who transition experience some level of relief (at least, temporarily), or even euphoria?

Since the body intuitive understands that acquiring agency over one’s suffering is a path out of helplessness and, in turn, suffering, gender dysphoric people imagine that exercising their agency through purposeful transition will eliminate their pain, and place their identities in a state of agency, acceptance, and harmony.

Temporary alleviation of suffering can be experienced during, and post-transition as a result of experiencing a sense of agency through their efforts to “heal” and harmonize their identities with transition, but this agency is a result of taking action, not of correctly identifying the solution to their suffering. It cannot ultimately “settle” into their identities and fully eliminate the helplessness/suffering in their nervous systems and emotional brains, as it has been mistakenly directed at the wrong enemy (their gender). Their gender isn’t the fundamental problem; helplessness against suffering is the problem, which, as we’ve discussed, results in dissociation from, and resentment of their identities.

Eventually, the sense of agency experienced as a result of transitioning will disappear, and they will likely find themselves still at war with some element of their identities – unable to feel harmony with them, and unable to ever truly feel “like themselves”.

True alleviation of helplessness can only be achieved by learning to accept and love their identities; to isolate the most fundamental source of their helplessness (the source which caused them to mistakenly and, wholly, blame and dissociate from their gender in the first place), and to exercise agency over it. Acceptance of that which they cannot change must be included in this process, as agency over immutable elements of reality is not possible, and will result in further helplessness (reality never loses, and the body understands this).

As briefly discussed in the opening of this section, this is why people who blame very particular and “simplified” elements of their identity for their suffering tend to require constant external validation and affirmation of their “chosen” identities. Affirmation from others feeds a false sense of identity harmony (alleviation of helplessness), while negation from others is utterly intolerable, as it draws attention to the unavoidable reality of the internal schism which, despite insistence from the sufferer, still exists.

The invalidation experienced as a reaction to external negation is, in fact, proof of this, as this level of invalidation cannot be externally imposed onto a person living in true harmony with their identities. Such a person simply does not care whether or not other people approve of, or agree with their perceptions of themselves. For a person living in disharmony with their identity, having this reality pointed out is invalidating of the delusion the sufferer has come to require in order to feel a false sense of harmony with their identity (agency over their lives). Ultimately, the only path out of this suffering is to embrace the full extent of their identities in congruence with reality.

Transitioning is not simply a process of becoming “who you were meant to be” - it is a process of leaving behind “who you don’t want to be”. If it were solely about becoming who you are, but you love the person you are, you wouldn’t need to transition in order to become that thing.

There are many things we do in our lives, and to our bodies, in order to align our and other people’s perceptions of us with our identities. There are, however, very good reasons why these actions typically differ from something like “gender affirming care”.

1. Permanence is exceptionally relevant in ANY life decision we make

2. The relevance of permanence is significantly elevated when considering the potential consequences of a given decision. In the case of transitioning, there are countless potential consequences of incredible severity (infertility and countless other physical and mental health consequences, exacerbation of helplessness, worsening incongruence, botched treatments, regret… The list is practically endless)

3. Your identity cannot be simplified into one element of your being - nor can it be fully and properly represented by focusing on, and altering this element. The consequences for attempting this are disastrous to physical and mental health.

4. Transitioning, unlike something such as a tattoo or piercing, is an all-encompassing physical alteration (and mental, for many people) that will, without exception, impact the mind and body forever.

5. Unlike transitioning, body alterations such as tattoos or piercings are not typically done in an effort to achieve congruence between perception of identity, and the totality of identity, itself. Instead, they are expressions of certain, partial elements of identity. The fact that there is no movement to “tattoo into the person you’ve always been” should highlight the significant differences between altering your body to achieve artificial identity congruence (transition), and altering your body to express elements of your identity you love, but don’t absolutely require modification to sustain, or achieve that love (tattoo).

6. Because we are constantly growing and changing, so too are our identities. Transitioning is effectively saying to your identity, “I understand you well enough to lock this part of you in to this state, and be certain that it won’t change.”

7. Perhaps most importantly, only a person who needs to escape some element of themselves will desire transition as, unlike most tattoos or piercings, transitioning involves losing certain, significant parts of yourself. Something like a tattoo or piercing, on the other hand, does not require that a person be in an abusive or neglectful relationship with themselves, and little (if anything) is permanently lost by getting one.

“Would You Rather Have a Trans Daughter, or a Dead Son?”

You’ve probably heard this phrase before, as have many hopelessly confused and terrified parents facing the fabricated reality which gave rise to this manipulative, deceitful, and wholly fraudulent threat.

The gender ideologues seek to convince people of the following claims:

1. The number of gender dysphoric and trans people has not grown. Instead, more of them have finally felt accepted enough to reveal their identities. They have always existed in these numbers, they were simply too afraid, or unable to understand and reveal who they truly are.

2. The suicide rate of trans people is so high (82% ideation - 40% attempted - even higher among youth), that to withhold treatment is to effectively condemn them to death based on the flip of a coin.

Do you see a problem with these claims?

If we are to accept both of them as true, then it would stand to reason that massive numbers of people (possibly in the millions) would have been committing suicide every year, for as long as suicide rates have been recorded, and for no other reason than having been unable to express their “true” selves without social consequence.

This, of course, is ridiculous beyond comprehension, and utterly untrue. In fact, if we were to accept these claims as true, then it would indicate that gender dysphoric people experienced significantly greater quality of life BEFORE gender ideologues intervened.

The suicide rate in the transgender community is, without question, shockingly high. Woke ideologues claim that suicide rates are as high as they are primarily because of the ways in which trans people are perceived and treated by others, as well as their lacking access to gender affirming care.

I must admit that the fact this claim has managed to survive in any serious scientific circles for more than a minute is truly shocking to me. Trans people do not have a monopoly on being mistreated by others. People of all kinds, all over the world, every single day, experience mistreatment of terrifying severity and frequency. The individuals who experience increases in suicidality and/or ideation do not do so because of the ways they are treated; they do so because of how they internalize this treatment.

Two things are true:

1. Certain kinds of mistreatment carry higher risks of inducing severe helplessness (despair and self-loathing) in the mistreated (the primary cause of suicidality and ideation)

2. Certain traits are protective against the helplessness-inducing element of these mistreatments

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be largely unphased, or even develop strength while experiencing hardships such as bullying, loss, violence, abuse, etc., while others wither and crumple? The answer is (you guessed it) agency. The individual who refuses to allow others to determine their value, or be forced into a position of severe and sustained helplessness, will not succumb to despair. The individual who believes what others say about them, and internalizes it, likely will.

Please understand I am not making a value judgement on either of the people in these examples. There are many experiences which, despite our best efforts, induce severe helplessness in us, particularly in childhood when we often lack the ability to exercise agency effectively. With that being said (if it wasn’t made apparent from the content of this post), we have become a society of overwhelming fragility; one utterly and increasingly obsessed with “safety”.

Is it any surprise that people, particularly children, have become so vulnerable to hardship of any kind? Instead of developing their agency against hardship, they have been raised to condemn and avoid it; to resent it, and everyone they hold responsible for contributing to it.

Trans people are not suicidal because of the way people treat them - they are suicidal because they are inundated with helplessness and despair. Again, I am not claiming this is necessarily the fault of any given trans person, or of the trans community at large. Instead, I believe it is important to understand why their suicide rate is so high, and which factors are actually contributing to this problem.

There are many pitfalls of helplessness burdening the lives of trans people, particularly those who develop gender dysphoria very early in childhood. What I wish to prevent is the exacerbation and number of these pitfalls. I believe this can be accomplished, in part, by eliminating the pseudoscientific, ideological garbage which currently plagues the field, and it’s allies. These people truly are suffering, and the last thing they need is for the largest contributors to their suffering to be elevated, celebrated, encouraged, etc.

Despite insistence from ideologically corrupted people and institutions desperately attempting to demonstrate otherwise, transitioning does not result in a measurable increase to mental wellbeing, or to a reduction in suicidality. Considering what we’ve covered in this post, the reasons for this should be apparent. Identity congruence CANNOT be achieved via affirmation of physical or mental delusion, no matter how convincing.

What will be achieved, is a drastic increase in helplessness and despair, as is always the inevitable result of attempting to subvert reality.

The Treatments Which Actually Work

The process of treating the mental and physical health of a gender dysphoric person is the exact same (in all the relevant ways) before and after transitioning. The difference is that post-transition treatment is likely to be far more difficult, as they are now contending with additional identity corruption, neglect, or abuse.

As it turns out, I wrote a book on how to escape anxiety, depression, trauma, and the identity dysfunction that comes along with them. Escaping these ailments requires eliminating things from your life which induce excess helplessness, and embracing the things which provide agency and acceptance. Every person who succeeds in improving their mental health will go through this experience in more than one way.

If you’d like to read it, you can find it for free here:

Bonus Section - Why do they Target Children?

Why does the Woke ideological left both focus and insist on the involvement of children when it comes to education, acceptance, participation, celebration, etc., of their lifestyle and beliefs?

1. External validation and affirmation of self-identity.

2. Kin recruitment and care in service to #1, as well as to fill the void of the parental impulse among the childless and self-loathing. Insecure/attention-starved parents need to be SEEN being “virtuous”.

3. Savior and activist complex – pathological compassion and further self-loathing.

#1. A self-loathing person (or any person who has come to primarily rely on external validation for their self-worth) comes to rely almost entirely on their ability to accumulate positive and affirmative attention from others in order to feel any sense of value. This is why people like this react so aggressively to things like denial of their chosen “identities”; it is why they claim their very existence is being negated in these moments. In a sense, they are correct, as the entirety of their value/existence has come to depend on the affirmation and validation of others, even people they loathe.

So, why children? Because children, when “instructed” properly, will accept and affirm anything and everything they are told to. They are sources of unlimited validation, and it is extremely easy to extract this validation from them. Their innocence is “attractive” because it can so easily be used to serve the needs of the person who takes advantage of it. To them, children are not children; they are little more than value acquisition opportunities for the eager narcissists seeking to exploit them.

#2: Given the above truths, recruitment and “care” of these “validation engines” (children) is intuitively recognized as immensely pleasurable, fulfilling, and necessary. For people without children, as well as for people with children who gain significant value by caring for those who will fill their parental impulses, the necessity to involve children increases exponentially.

Most people have a biological imperative to impose themselves and their values onto young people for a variety of reasons, both good and bad. In cases of the bad, this imposition is often the result of the parental figure desiring to see an idealized version of themselves implanted into a new generation for self-fulfilling purposes. The children are merely extensions of themselves, as is characteristic of the narcissistic and emotionally fragile parental figure. The more of themselves they can see in the world, the better they feel about themselves.

Also, people who are not good at taking care of themselves (depressed people) often feel compelled to unnecessarily care for others, as their efforts to care for themselves fail to provide them with value (internal value), while their efforts to care for others often successfully generates value. These people do not care about being truly good parental figures, they care about FEELING like good parental figures, and being SEEN as good parental figures. They need to be SEEN imposing their desires and values; they need to be SEEN doing the “virtuous” thing.

#3: Lastly, these people tend to suffer from savior complexes, or a type of communal narcissism. Their activism defines them in many ways, as they experience a sense of value by imposing their beliefs onto others for the reasons listed above, and others. A person existing in this state will go to almost any lengths to cling to and manifest whatever it is that grants them value. A person who does not love themselves is the most eager to sacrifice their very being, and their better judgement, as well as produce endless justification for whatever actions they take in order to acquire the value/validation they need.

The eager martyr does not seek martyrdom for the sake of others, or for any other virtuous reason; they seek it because they value other people’s perception and celebration of their actions more than they value themselves.